Everyone has their own justification

Everyone has their own justification 

There is no shortage of justifications in this world. Everyone has their own reasons, and every action has an explanation behind it. Every mistake seems to have a story of its own. But the real question is  Are all these explanations genuine justifications  or are they merely excuses to defend ourselves?

For some, justice is the voice of truth. For many others, it is simply a shield to protect themselves.

As the saying goes, “We are all quick to justify our own actions, but equally quick to question the actions of others.”

The Many Faces of Justice

Two people can look at the same incident from entirely different perspectives. What seems right to one may appear wrong to another. Our experiences, thoughts, expectations and personal needs often influence the way we define justice.

When it comes to justifying our own actions, nobody can compete with us!.Yet, when judging others, we suddenly become champions of honesty and fairness.

When we get angry, it is a justified emotional reaction. When others get angry, it is arrogance.

When we express our opinions, it is freedom of expression. When others do the same, we accuse them of talking back.

How strange the human mind can be!

Contradictory Justifications

When we make a mistake, we search for reasons. When others make a mistake, we search for reasons to punish them.

This is the fundamental contradiction behind everyone's justifications.

We often judge others by their actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions.

As Stephen R. Covey wisely observed:

“We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behaviour.”

This is precisely where our sense of fairness begins to lose its balance.

Justifications Within Relationships

These double standards become even more interesting in relationships.

When someone we like makes a mistake, we try to understand their circumstances. But when someone we dislike commits the same mistake, we question their  character.

Relationships do not always suffer because of differences in opinions. Sometimes, they suffer because everyone believes that their own point of view is the only correct one.

.Justice That Changes With Circumstances

Sometimes, justice becomes a puppet in the hands of circumstances.

When an action favours us, we readily accept it as right. The very same action, when it works against us, suddenly becomes wrong.

When we need an exception, we expect others to understand our situation. But when others seek an exception, we are quick to quote rules and regulations.

The irony is that When selfishness speaks, justice becomes silent. When conscience speaks, selfishness becomes silent!

We conveniently adjust our principles according to our needs. What we call flexibility in ourselves, we often call inconsistency in others.

Before Judging Others, Examine Ourselves

There is one important truth we should never forget Not everyone's circumstances are the same. Each individual has different experiences, struggles and responsibilities.

Behind someone's silence, there may be an unspoken pain.

Behind someone's withdrawal, there may be a perfectly valid reason.

A decision that appears wrong to us may have been the only reasonable choice in that person's circumstances.

Therefore, before passing judgement, we must make an effort to listen to the other side of the story.

As the famous saying goes:

“There are two sides to every story.”

We have every right to present our justification, but we must also recognise that the other person has exactly the same right to present theirs.

True maturity lies not in winning every argument, but in understanding when we might be wrong.

Conclusion

There may be thousands of justifications in life, but not every justification can become the truth.

Believing that everything favourable to us is right and everything unfavourable to us is wrong is a sign of an immature mindset.

We should not become lawyers defending our own mistakes and judges sentencing the mistakes of others!

We may twist justice to suit our convenience, but truth can never be twisted!

Ultimately, the real measure of justice is not how convincingly we defend ourselves, but how honestly we examine ourselves.

As long as we believe that something is right when it supports our side and wrong when it supports the other, there will never be a shortage of justifications in this world.